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Negative effects of hyper-critical parenting: Therapist shares tips

Published on Oct 05, 2023 08:12 AM IST

From never asking for help to thinking that we are flawed, here are a few ways by which hyper-critical parents can impact us.

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When we are brought up in homes where the parents were extremely critical of us, we develop a very low sense of self and confidence. "Having a critical parent can be profoundly traumatizing. It’s a relentless emotional assault that chips away at a child’s sense of self-worth and security. The scars of this trauma often persist into adulthood, manifesting as pervasive self-doubt, anxiety, and a perpetual fear of not measuring up," wrote Relationship Coach Kasturi M. Here are a few ways by which hyper-critical parents can affect us.(Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
Published on Oct 05, 2023 08:12 AM IST

When we are brought up in homes where the parents were extremely critical of us, we develop a very low sense of self and confidence. "Having a critical parent can be profoundly traumatizing. It’s a relentless emotional assault that chips away at a child’s sense of self-worth and security. The scars of this trauma often persist into adulthood, manifesting as pervasive self-doubt, anxiety, and a perpetual fear of not measuring up," wrote Relationship Coach Kasturi M. Here are a few ways by which hyper-critical parents can affect us.(Unsplash)

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We constantly think of ways in which we could have been better and done better. We never think that we are good enough. (Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
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We constantly think of ways in which we could have been better and done better. We never think that we are good enough. (Unsplash)

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We think of vulnerability and asking for help as a weakness. Hence, we never seek help even when we are struggling and see independence as pride. (Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
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We think of vulnerability and asking for help as a weakness. Hence, we never seek help even when we are struggling and see independence as pride. (Unsplash)

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We constantly believe that we are wrong and flawed. We are always in the process of trying to fix ourselves. (Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
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We constantly believe that we are wrong and flawed. We are always in the process of trying to fix ourselves. (Unsplash)

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We are constantly on our toes because deep down we feel that we should not disappoint anyone. We never rest even when our bodies are tired. (Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
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We are constantly on our toes because deep down we feel that we should not disappoint anyone. We never rest even when our bodies are tired. (Unsplash)

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We pass on criticism in our adult relationships as well. We are constantly criticising our partners – this further leads to a toxic relationship pattern. (Unsplash) expand-icon View Photos in a new improved layout
Published on Oct 05, 2023 08:12 AM IST

We pass on criticism in our adult relationships as well. We are constantly criticising our partners – this further leads to a toxic relationship pattern. (Unsplash)

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